Monday, September 22, 2008

So There's a 25% Chance...

New ultrasound, new photos. Four possibilities:




Normal looking human baby





Normal looking human baby, button nose




Normal looking human baby, slightly enlarged teeth






Evil alien overlord, wringing hands in anticipation of immanent arrival and subsequent enslavement of entire human race

Things went well for the most part at our ultrasound today. Monkey (Overlord?) was being rather stubborn (much like a certain parent who shall remain nameless...) and wouldn't turn over to allow a shot of his/her spine, but everything else looked normal. 11 ounces, 141 bpm heart rate. The technician never asked whether we wanted to know the sex of the child, so I assume she couldn't tell yet.

Saturday, September 20, 2008

A Moment of Seriousness

As most of you probably know, I work at a school where the lives of my students are anything but easy. Let's just say Leave It To Beaver never saw this part of town.

This last week I went into work to find out that a student of mine had been shot in the leg during a shootout between two of the neighborhood's drug dealers. The little girl, whom I will refer to as "Jane," was wandering around her housing project when she got caught in the crossfire. She managed to make it home where her father called 911. She was rushed to the hospital and quickly released after the wound had been taken care of (no insurance you know). She was terrified of going home so she spent the rest of the week resting at her Grandma's house.

Upon hearing the story I was obviously stunned. A few of the circumstances surrounding the incident bothered me (setting aside the fact that a little girl was shot). First of all, what the hell was Jane doing wandering around a notoriously dangerous neighborhood at 11:00 pm on a school night? What was a 9 year old doing outside alone at 11:00pm at all? In addition, where were her neighbors? It wasn't until she managed to get herself home that 911 was called. Every person in the housing project (including some of her classmates, my students) could hear the gun shots, but apparently no one thought it necessary to call the police.

Equally disconcerting was the reaction my students had to the news that a classmate had been shot. They felt bad for her, but there was a noticeable absence of surprise in their reactions. They were much more curious as to the status of the shooters. Did the police know who they were? Had they been caught? Were they in jail yet? There was also a lot of speculation as to who's relative or friend it was that had shot Jane. This is an issue of great concern to the Staff members. The likelihood that the shooters are known to the kids is very high. What will their reactions be if/when they find out it was a father or uncle of a classmate? If something like this had happened to a classmate of mine when I was 9, I would have been shocked and afraid for my own safety and the safety in my neighborhood. It is disheartening to me that shootings are such common occurrences in the lives of these children that they aren't even phased by a classmate getting shot.

When I see things like this, I sometimes wonder if we are all crazy for bringing children into this world. Obviously, this situation grew out of one of the worst neighborhoods in one of the most crime-ridden cities in the country, and in no way represents a "normal" childhood. It's not like there's no hope, but sometimes thinking about it all can be overwhelming.

Thursday, September 18, 2008

Reflections on Fatherhood: Sports






As an ex-athlete and lifelong sports fan, I feel it is my duty to make sure that Monkey is well-versed in the world of modern athletics. Just as important to this is making sure that (s)he roots for the right teams. Clearly I will have failed as a father if my child comes home one day wearing a (god forbid) Ducks t-shirt...

To accomplish this end, I am planning a "root through osmosis" approach. If Monkey observes me rooting relentlessly for the Beavers, (s)he will slowly begin to root for the Beavers as well (Monkey see, Monkey do, anyone?). On the other side of things, if the child sees me throw the TV remote in angry despair after the Bears lose on a last-second field goal, (s)he will come to understand that a horrible thing has occurred, and will mourn along with me for the rest of the day/weekend/month (depending on the magnitude of the game).

This approach clearly worked on me. I know that Penn State has without a doubt the greatest football program that has ever existed because starting in the fall of 1981, I watched their games and joined in with all of the joyous highs and despairing lows with my parents and other members of the Penn State Club of Oregon.

Thus the indoctrination encouragement begins this coming summer with the FIFA confederations cup. I see this as the perfect opportunity to "kick things off" for two reasons: 1. It sets the tone that the USA Men's National Soccer Team is the #1 team in the hierarchy of teams to root for. 2. The confederations cup is kind of like a "World Cup Lite," and will serve as a good preparation for the pandemonium of fandom that Monkey will witness the following summer during the actual World Cup. After that it will be a healthy tossed salad of Penn State/Oregon State/Chicago Bears football in the fall, a sprinkling of the occasional Baltimore Orioles baseball game, a dash of Pittsburgh Penguins Hockey, a dressing of Portland Trailblazers basketball, and for dessert, Portland Timbers Soccer (here's to praying they are able to join the MLS in the next 5 years). Bon appétit!

Next up in the Reflections on Fatherhood series: Culture (on the chance that Monkey turns out to be a theater nerd like his/her father...)


(wow I wish the English language had a gender-neutral pronoun referring to a human being)

Saturday, September 13, 2008

Pregnant, or Just Big Boned?

Ever been confronted with a question that could possibly turn uncomfortable? Let me tell you a story...

Obviously I have gained some weight as a side effect of pregnancy. That being said, my current look is that visually glorious in-between stage where the question on everyones mind is something along the lines of, "Is she pregnant, or just plumping up for a sparce winter?"

With this in mind, imagine my surprise when two people in the same day asked me when Monkey was due. At first it didn't strike me as odd, but looking back I wonder just how much I would have cried twer there no due date. As someone well aquainted with the concept of insecurity, I have to wonder how many years of therapy it would take to restack that house of cards. Yay self-esteem!!!

13 weeks and 17 weeks









13 Weeks



















17 Weeks

Sea monkey at 16 weeks.

Totally has my eyes...







So we have decided to start a blog for anyone interested in tracking the progress of Meghan's pregnancy. Judging by the preliminary ultrasound, we are a bit concerned that we have managed to conceive a sea monkey, but are relatively confident that all will be cleared up at our next ultrasound on the 22nd.
 
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